Safety & Security

Our service is all about unique and fun first dates and that can be exciting! But you should always be cautious and use your best judgement when interacting with new people that you don't fully know yet. We take your safety seriously and provide some helpful tips here, while also maintaining and enforcing our terms internally on the platform. Please take the time to read these guidelines to help you have the safest and the best experience possible.

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Our Commitment

  • We employ both manual and automated processes to monitor users for authenticity. If you're interacting with a suspicious profile, flag them to raise our attention. We will review their profile and take appropriate action.
  • We are always evaluating our existing moderation and review tools, while exploring new technologies and ways to enhance them.
  • Pictures, text, and posts are constantly reviewed through a combination of custom search algorithms and human review.
  • When bad actors are identified, we block them and disable their accounts. Their actions enhance our algorithm to future reject similar type of behavior.
  • Your comments and concerns are taken seriously. We are committed to addressing safety issues responsibly and in a timely manner.

Interacting with others online

  • If a profile looks suspicious, do not engage and flag it for our review.
  • A profile’s appearance (pictures, language, and other info) can tell you a lot about their intentions. Skip it or fully ignore it if it doesn’t align with what you’re looking for.
  • When starting or maintaining a conversation, lookout for these red flags: excessive use of bad grammar or articulation; asking for personal information too quickly in the conversation; asking to move to another platform to continue the discussion; requests for money or other financial or personal information.
  • Do not display excessive personal information in your profile or too soon in communications (such as full names, addresses, social security numbers, details about family members or kids, and anything personally identifiable).
  • Stay on the platform as long as you need to better know your potential date and until you feel comfortable to exchange more information.
  • Be vigilant about long distance relationships. Scammers will always tend to ask for money or gift transfers to some external accounts and even present you with an urgent or threatening situation that is in need of help. This is especially common in overseas or abroad relationships.
  • Declining to talk over the phone, video calls, or even meet when it’s time, may mean they are not who they say they are.
  • Do not feel obligated to talk to someone who is aggressive, harassing you, threatening, or just offensive. Report them instead.
  • Ask questions in your messaging if you feel something is off and doesn't add up. Don't be shy about too many questions.
  • Some helpful ways to spot catfishing (pretending to be someone else):
            • hesitation to get on phone or video calls
            • asking for money or other personal information
            • erratic messaging with language that seems off
            • pictures don't match their bio or other items on the profile
            • distance (from you) on their profile does not match with where they said their are located
            • their social media looks too new or does not match their dating profile
  • We will never ask for your password, so always ignore anyone pretending to be us and asking for your credentials.

Moving offline IRL

  • Don’t rush to meet someone too soon if you’re not comfortable yet and don’t have a full picture of the other person.
  • Best way to ensure their authenticity is to plan the first date over the phone or a video call. This will be a good step towards a better first date while letting you see and hear who you will be meeting IRL.
  • Before heading out on your date, tell someone you trust (like your friends or family) about the meet-up and its location.
  • Arrange for your own transportation both ways.
  • There are plenty of good first dates in public locations, so try and stick with those when possible as it will make you both feel safer. Alternatively, meet in a public place first then head together towards the date’s destination.
  • When alcohol is involved, drink responsibly and always keep an eye on your glass.
  • Ask questions during your date if something feels off to better understand the situation. Most likely intentions are good, but meeting someone for the first time can be an anxious experience.
  • Ultimately, if you’re at all uncomfortable with how things are going, aim to leave as politely as possible whenever you want.

Other Resources

If you feel in danger or in an emergency, call 911 (U.S. or Canada) or your local law enforcement agency for assistance.

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Reach for Help

Additionally, if you are aware of anyone who violates our terms, please report them to safety@everydate.app